How to Write a Eulogy

What is a Eulogy

A eulogy is a speech typically given during a funeral or memorial service that pays tribute to the deceased. A eulogy is usually delivered by a family member or a close friend of the family. Preparing a eulogy for a recently departed family member or friend, especially in a short notice can be an overwhelming task. This article is meant to act as a simple guide on how to write a eulogy  

How to Write a Eulogy  

Before you start writing the eulogy, brainstorm what you are going to say. You can think of these questions.

What are the prominent memories associated with that person?

What are the words you would use to describe this person?

What is the quality you most admired in this person?

How did this person influence you?

If you are not really familiar with the deceased, talking to the family and close friends of the deceased would also help you.

Next, decide the tone of the eulogy. Determine how serious or light-hearted you are going to be. There is actually no right or wrong tone. But you can perhaps think about the preference of the deceased. If the deceased were a jovial, humorous person, he would have preferred a light-hearted tone.

Time is another important factor to consider before writing a eulogy. Find out how much time is allocated for your speech. An average eulogy is generally 3-5 minutes.

How to Write a Eulogy

Begin the eulogy by introducing yourself. Perhaps most of the audience may know you, but it’s always polite to start by stating your name and stating your relationship to the deceased.

Next comes the most important part of the eulogy. This is where you are going to share your stories and memories about your loved one. You can begin by giving some brief information about the deceased, and then you can go into personal details like memories, anecdotes, stories, etc. You can also talk about the deceased accomplishments and achievements. But remember that eulogy is not a biography. Don’t try to talk about your loved one’s entire life. Instead, tell your story – how you saw the deceased and what he was to you.

When you are talking about the qualities of your loved one, don’t state the qualities like a list; use examples to illustrate your points. Examples can be in the form of stories.

A eulogy should always be honest. True, everybody has negative qualities. But in a eulogy, you should always focus on the positive qualities of the deceased, not the negative qualities. If you must talk about the negative qualities, talk about them compassionately.

The conclusion of your eulogy should review everything you have said in the body. The final sentences are the most powerful and impactful part of the eulogy. This needs to be a lasting statement that you leave with the audience. So pay special attention to this part.

Sample Eulogy

Sample Eulogy

You can download this document here – Sample Eulogy

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About the Author: Hasa

Hasa has a BA degree in English, French and Translation studies. She is currently reading for a Masters degree in English. Her areas of interests include literature, language, linguistics and also food.

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